Sunday, February 25, 2018

Taking A Break

I'm sure you've noticed that I haven't posted on here in a while. It was about a month ago where I hit my limit. I have been frustrated for YEARS that this blog isn't what I had intended it to be. I kept telling myself every few months that it would change, that things would get better, but life always got in the way.

Last month I noticed that a girl I went to high school with, with a blog that hadn't been active in months, and only had posts every few months, had more followers than mine. And that was the moment I quit.

In the back of my mind since starting this blog, my thoughts were always "get more followers" and I acted on social media and on this blog in a manner to do so, but to no avail. I would plan everything, every move, and I felt so limited and boxed it. I didn't even notice it though.

The moment I told myself "I'm done blogging" it felt like a huge weight had lifted. I started to enjoy Instagram in a way I never had. I wasn't posting to please others, I was posting because it made me happy. I didn't feel pressured to do a photo shoot, then upset it didn't turn out as I wanted.

To say this blog is entirely done, is probably false. I will very likely come back. But right now I'm enjoying this freedom I hadn't realized I had taken from myself.

I've focused more recently on my Instagram. My personal (@_cowgirlkaylee_) I just try to post semi- beautiful photos to document my life. I have a "fitness blog" (@kayleeshealthylife) account that motivates me to reach my health and fitness goals. And I have a third account (@zoeyandmakell) where I post daily photos of my twin girls (it's by far the cutest and my favorite of the three).

I've also been working on family vlogs to document events in my children's lives. Its been lots of fun and while I never expect my little family vlogs to amount to much, they're something I'll be able to look back on for the rest of my life.

Everything I do now is for myself and my family, which makes it SO much better.

I hope you understand my reasoning behind this. I feel better, and, no offense to anyone who may be in love with this blog, my personal happiness is the most important to me.

This may not be the end. Most likely a break. But I don't know how long and I have no current plans to continue.

Follow me on social media to keep up with my life!!!! I would give you links, but I'm doing this on my phone and I'm literally too lazy to figure out how. There are links at the top of this page, find me there.

Wednesday, January 3, 2018

Life | Spiritual Thought

There have been many moments in my life where I believed all was lost and I would never repair myself. I wanted life to end. I wanted to escape from the pain, reality, and difficulty of it all. Life didn't feel fair.

Life is never fair though.

It's not meant to be fair. No one can have a perfect life and no one can have the exact same life. It wouldn't make sense, it wouldn't be real. No one would progress and change, no one would feel.

I think the biggest reality of the unfairness of this world is death.

I remember when my aunt died of cancer. I remember how I didn't take it well. Even if she lived in California and I saw her maybe once a year, having to watch such an incredible, kind, brave woman battle cancer and die from it was so hard on me.

I didn't know how to cope.

I was asked to sing at the funeral and I remember struggling to get through it, my emotions and tears taking over my voice. My uncle still loved it, he told me so, but I remember being ashamed, feeling that I had ruined a beautiful moment.

I was lost at the time.

I grew up in the LDS church and we are taught that there is an afterlife. That we are sealed to our families for eternity. That we will see our family members again after we die.

We never truly lose someone.

But when my aunt died, my heart was lost and I didn't believe it. I didn't believe that I would see her again. And it felt so unfair that this amazing woman was just gone.

There was a moment in my life that changed me.

I had been broken for a long time. I had been viciously cutting and burning myself. And one night in college I ran away and I found myself on the steps of an LDS church building in the middle of the night.

And I prayed.

And I didn't feel anything after. There was no light from heaven, there was no prompting, there was no comfort. My pain didn't disappear it didn't diminish. In that moment, nothing changed.

I didn't know it at the time, but my entire life would shift from that moment on.

It was slow and gradual, but my heart began finding the light again. And I believe with every part of me, that it was not a coincidence that only a week later I would meet the man who would later become my husband, and who I believe is my soulmate.

God is good.

He teaches us when and how we need to be taught. He has a path and a plan for our lives. It's never easy or fair or what we want. He knows what's best.

I know I am sealed to my family for eternity.

My family means the world to me. My parents, siblings, cousins, grandparents, aunts, uncles, in-laws, husband, and my beautiful baby girls. I know we are all part of a bigger plan. I will see my aunt again. I will see my grandpa again. And I will see my angel baby again.

The world lost a great man.

President Thomas S. Monson passed away. He was a prophet of God. He inspired me. He spoke, and I couldn't help but listen. He would tell me to do something and I wanted to go and do it. I think, more than any apostle in the LDS church, he was the one that helped me find myself when I was lost.

He is not gone, though.

He is now reunited with his sweet wife. And his words have resonated in the hearts of many people and will live on for eternity. And while he may not dwell on earth anymore, he will always live in our hearts and in our memory.

Death is not the end.

And our lives have so much more meaning than we could ever imagine.

And I love knowing.

Photo Credits: Fox 13

Monday, January 1, 2018

My 2018 New Year's Resolutions

Hello friends! It's a new year and I always get so excited, hyping up the new year and hoping it'll be better than the last. The past few years have been hard, but 2017 overall was good. I got pregnant after three years of trying and a miscarriage, and I was so blessed to have my beautiful twins, who I'm just obsessed with. Yes, I spent most the year pregnant and miserable, and the medical bills have been an adventure, but 2017 was the best year I've had in a while. So good job 2017!

Last year I made tons of goals/resolutions for the year (which I'll talk about a little later on in this post). My whole reasoning was that with tons of goals, I would at least accomplish some of them. I didn't care about getting everything done on my list... I think part of me knew I would get pregnant and most my life plans/goals would change.

This year, I'm doing the complete opposite. Because I only have one goal. So if I don't accomplish it then it'll be really sad. Now, even though it's technically one goal, it has a few parts to it, so let's go over my goal for 2018.


That's it. Very simple, straightforward, not complicated at all. But honestly, it will (hopefully) be the most impactful goal of my entire life.

I have said on this blog so many times that I want to be a book author. But have you seen any books of mine yet? Nope. Because I don't write enough. I was ten when I first knew I wanted to write. TEN! I'm now twenty-seven. That's seventeen years of wasted time! Honestly, I'm sick of being upset with myself, so we're doing this!!

As I said there are a few parts to it, so let's go over that.

First is possibly the obvious one, to write my books and finish a book. I have way too many story ideas written down and I just need to finish one. And yes, I would love to get published as soon as possible, but that's not going to be my goal until I complete a book.

The second is working on Heroes & Villains as well as a few other short story ideas I'm workshopping (which is the beginning of a whole other blog I'm thinking of, but that's another story for another day). I love Heroes & Villains but I don't work on it enough because I just want my readers to be caught up to where I am. I'm skipping ahead to the end, but forgetting to work on the foundation first. I've already been working on this quite a bit and you can expect the next collection of stories to start arriving very soon.

Lastly is writing on this blog. Every year I say I'm going to write more but then I never do. But I'm really thinking this will be my year. Why? Because I'm a stay-at-home mom who now has so much more time to work on blogging! I also have a friend who's going to help out with taking photos and that maybe someday I can convince to be my assistant because she's ridiculously organized and amazing at life. She's also my BFFL so working with her is like the ultimate dream job.

So, yeah, my goal this year is to write and that's it. But I'm really happy about it. I've never loved a goal more in my life nor have I ever been more motivated to reach a goal (except maybe last year with my whole pregnancy goal).

Here's just a recap of all my goals from last year and a look at what I was able to accomplish:

Yes-Eat healthierYes-Pray dailyNo-Find my style
Yes-Get to sleep/rise earlyNo-Read the Book of MormonNo-Work on the Chris & Kaylee Show
No-Workout 4x per weekNo-Visit the temple monthlyYes-Find my voice
No-Run a 5kMaybe-Become more ChristlikeYes-Be myself
No-Lose fat, gain muscleNo-Give service dailyNo-Become a #BossBabe
Yes-DanceNo-Have family home eveningNo-Blog at least 2x per week
HOME LIFEFINANCIALNo-Get 2 blog sponsors
No-Cook moreNo-Pay all bills on timeYes-Learn how to make money blogging
Yes-Move into an apartmentNo-Save up money for a tripIsh-Start vlogging
No-Clean home dailyNo-Become financially stableNo-Take video editing course
No-Craft moreFUNNo-Be more active on social media
No-Sew four projectsNo-Find 1 new city event a monthYes-Work on photography skills
No-Grow a plantNo-Explore everywhereWRITING
PERSONALNo-Visit museumsNo-Weekly writing prompts
Yes-Think positivelyNo-Sing moreYes-Find my voice
Yes-Be a warriorYes-Dance moreNo-Learn more
Yes-Be a better wifeNo-Plan a tripNo-Go to a writing conference
Yes-Love moreNo-Take a writing course
Yes-Work with passionNo-Publish a short story on Amazon
Yes-Find my voiceYes-Write 30 minutes a day
No-Tell my storyNo-Read more
Yes-Be myself
Yes-Become pregnant/learn what my body needs to have a baby

So yeah... didn't do great. But as I mentioned, getting pregnant changed a lot of things. Especially when I found out it was twins. Small tangent here, I had every intention to keep working after having my baby until I learned it was twins. Because affording any sort of childcare for twins would be impossible. Though affording to live on one income is difficult as well, but we are picking our battles here.

Of course, just because I didn't reach those goals last year doesn't mean I'm completely giving up on them. Some of them are lifelong goals so I'll be continuing on with them in mind.

Last note, I always pick a theme song for the year and this year was just super difficult because there are so many that I thought of. So I made a whole playlist of them which you can listen to below. Basically, this year is about getting work done (which is ironic since I'm technically unemployed) and these are all songs that motivate me. But I did end up choosing one main one and you can read about it HERE.

Well, I think that's it for this post. Let me know your goals for the new year in the comment section below! Thanks, you're a hero! 

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